Craig David | Feel Me In
When the term “black women” was searched on Google, the first result that popped up was “Nearly Half of Black Women Have Herpes.”When the image of black women is clicked, pictures of women posing nude or semi-nude pops up. As to whether the allegation of half of black women have herpes is fact or fiction, or whether all black women are viewed as being naked, self-degrading women is not the point; the point is the results about black women are ostracizing ones that put down half of black women in general. Black woman are often viewed in a more negative, disgusting, profane manner than anyone else in today’s society. Whether it is coming from the view of a man, woman, child, or media, black woman are disdained and disrespected in a country realm.“I’ma nigga wit money [x3]
And I don’t love dat bitch
I tell her bitch, bitch, bitch, bitch make me rich
Not only is he calling a black woman out of their name, which is upmost disrespectful, he is stating that he tells them to make him rich. Artists such as Lil’ Wayne in hip-hop promotes disrespectfulness towards women, and the large portions of the African-American community that listen to him listen to adhere to what he says. When a main figure in a community speaks negatively on a set or group of people, it is easy understood that the likelihood of people reacting to what they hear since music generates a plethora of emotions when listened to. This a a problem because it causes an even more lack of respect men already do not have for women.
In addition to the misogynistic lyrics that degrade women, Morgan feels hip-hop music promotes black women as sexual figures. She quotes rapper Jeru the Damaja as saying, “Now a queen’s a queen but a stunt’s a stunt. You can tell who’s who by the things they want.” This quote she mentioned expresses how black women in the eyes of African-American men can be seen as a queen, but for the most part are “stunts.” Stunt is defined by UbranDictionary.com as a person who gets around and is very easy. A woman even being called “stunt” is disrespectful, but in addition to that, knowing that he feels he can determine what kind of women they are by the things she wants is disheartening. In personal experiences, I have seen a black woman ask a black man for help, and he automatically begins to think negative thoughts, or even sexual thoughts based on the innuendos he says towards the woman. Instead of being the loving black man that sees a black woman in need, he demonstrates the basic image of a black man disrespecting the women.
This leads to the next point. Men do not love themselves so they do not know how to love black women. In the text, Morgan states, “One of the most important lessons you will ever learn in life and love, is you’ve got to love people for what they are – not for who you would like them to be.” She further goes on to say, “But recognize: Any man who doesn’t truly love himself is incapable of loving us [Black Women] in the healthy way we need to be loved. It’s extremely telling that men who can only see us as “bitches” and “hos” refer to themselves only as niggas.” It is clear and precise that black men cannot respect and love women because they lack respect and love in their selves. Many black men are not men at all. Most cannot define their own manhood and follow the lead of other ignorant and insecure black males. They perpetuate the hate and disrespect of the slave owners; ie use of the word “nigga.” That alone is proof they are still generations behind, and still have not grown to love and respect themselves. Although this situation is disappointing, the portion of men who do disrespect women, need self-love and need a self-evaluation. Until that occurs, black men will continue to disrespect black women.
Not only are men guilty of viewing black women in a negative manner, women are just as guilty. This is displayed in Jamaica Kincaid’s, “Girl.” In this text, Kincaid illustrates a vivid image of a mother speaking to her daughter who is coming of an age close to womanhood. The text starts off with a list of commands for the daughter to do such as, “wash the white clothes on Monday and put them on the stone heap; wash the color clothes on Tuesday and put them on the clothesline to dry; don’t walk bareheaded in the hot sun….” Women in the West Indies society feel that learning the duties of becoming a housewife should be taught at a young age. They feel they could make nothing more of themselves, so being able to perform basic and intricate tasks around the home will make them a perfect contender for being a housewife in the future.
In today’s American society, most have the mindset that black women cannot succeed, and in this text, she is proving this point further. In this essay, she constantly mentions to the young girl that there are certain things she should not do or say, so she will not be a slut. “Sundays try to walk like a lady and not like the slut you are so bent on becoming…” Or, “This is how to hem a dress when you see the hem coming down and so to prevent yourself from looking like the slut I know you are so bent on becoming.” These basic notes she is giving to this young girl is to prevent her from becoming a slut, but she constantly reinforces in her mind that she is bent on becoming a slut regardless of what she does. In society today, black women are looked upon as being promiscuous, and feisty, thus leading to the disgust women see in black women. Black women look to each other’s as sluts, so other women will look at them in the same way.
When a child shows distaste towards a women, it is because someone in that child’s life had that view point. A child’s mind warps based on the community or society that they live in, and in Toni Cade Bambara’s, “The Lesson,” the idea of children thinking negatively of black women in the American society is displayed. This story illustrates three children, and their upmost disrespect towards a black educated woman. In today’s society, it is not often you find an educated black woman, and if you do, they are frowned upon, and disrespected because they took a further step to not be what Kincaid demonstrated in her essay “Girl.”
In “The Lesson,” the main character Miss Moore (educated black woman) decides to take three children in the projects of New York City, to the most expensive part of the “Big Apple” to show the economic differences between their place of living, and to inspire them to understand that one day they can live their too. One of the children in the story is discussing her distaste towards Miss Moore, and says, “I am hating this nappy-headed bitch and her goddamn college degree.” To know that a child thinks negative thoughts of a woman who evidently is considered a prominent figure in the African-American community just because she does have a college degree is baffling. When a black woman is educated, it is criticized in the community, and the black woman are usually said to be, “pretending or trying to act white.” White women are the people seen on television when you think of education, not African-American woman, so when a child, man or another woman sees a black woman emulating something a white woman normally does; it is ostracized, and talked about. Black women are not portrayed as the lawyer on Law and Order, and they are not the doctor on shows like Grey’s Anatomy, so when they are actually of these professions in society it appears as if they are pretending to be something they are not.
Men do not love or respect black women because of insecurities within themselves as illustrated in Morgan’s, “From Fly-Girls to Bitches and Hos.” Women belittle themselves to just be the typical housewife presented in Kincaid’s “Girl.” And lastly children disrespect the unfamiliar; the unfamiliar being an educated black woman who ultimately is trying to teach them a lesson. Society has more negative views on black women, and the positive ones are often neglected because the negative ones weigh the positive ones out. Although generalization and stereotypes should not occur in today’s American society, black women will always be looked down upon whether she is educated or trying to be a rappers “stunt.” The black community needs a revolution to occur in order for black women to receive love black men, respect from children, and honor and respect from other women.
Written by @NIKKI_Thttp://atouchwithreality.blogspot.com/2012/10/perceptions-black-women-in-white-world.html?m=1